People have written a lot of touchy-feely pieces on this subject but I thought I’d get right to the heart of the matter
This is 1000% more motivating than every preachy “real writers write every day” post on all of Tumblr.
People who misinterpret Sandstorm as a jealous bitch
People who say Silverstream had no personality
when your bra strap falls off on one side and it’s very annoying but you also feel kinda roguishly sexy
you know, having an anxiety disorder that leads to nausea combined with a phobia of vomiting is the worse vicious cycle of mental and physical symptoms ever
Terri Conley, professor of psychology and women’s studies at the University of Michigan ( link )
I love how this psychology professor doesn’t even pull out Psychological terms to explain this. She’s just like “yeah, you call us sluts afterward and you’re not even that good, anyway, why bother?”
ppl who constantly radiate bad vibes are so exhausting like how are you always so that way
i don’t understand what i did
i have no clue what you did either don’t worry
you don’t have to be dating the person, but i strongly advise you pick someone you know you can trust!
a safe bet is to wait to find someone who’s actively invested in showing you a good time. don’t settle for someone that just wants to fuck you; try to find someone who personally wants to see you orgasm. I know this seems like kind of a weirdly obvious standard, but you’d be amazed how many people settle for lackluster sex lives because they don’t think they deserve better. you deserve a better first time than just being mounted up and sent on your way.
i personally rushed into my first time, and it was hugely disappointing to both my partner and myself. you gotta at least have an investment in the pleasure of your partner before you can enjoy sex– if you’re doing it just because you want to get off, then one or both of you are going to walk away disappointed.
Also this is sort of unrelated but as an ironclad rule never give oral sex to anyone unless they are both willing and enthusiastic about doing the same for you. Regardless of gender.
I believe I can add to this! My first time was a random friends with benefits fling at a con with a person i’d only talked to a few times before. There’s no standard rule to how to do your first time, make it according to what you want! If you want an emotional closeness you can wait for a significant other, if you just want a good time then you can have it be as spontaneous as you want; just stay safe and communicate well!
I don’t actually agree 100% to that oral sex rule, mine is only give what you can enthusiastically deliver, and never expect anything the other will not enthusiastically deliver. I myself am not into giving oral, but both my partners so far freely offered to give me oral without me even asking them to, because they enjoyed it. The ironclad rule is enthusiastic consent for me, everyone’s situation is different as far as what exchanges work, but as long as everyone’s enthusiastic it should go well!